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brightrosefoxI guess I'm late to the party, but I only just heard about LJ's new policy of "flagging" entries that contain Adult Content. Because we must Protect The Precious Children. Or something like that.
I tend to talk about Adult Content. Guess this means I should put a Warning Sign in each entry that contains such content. But I realize that my entries might not just offend certain types of parents, but might offend strangers who just don't want to read about my sex life. And you know what? Fuck them. I'm married. I have sex with my husband. Before we were married, we had sex. It's what people do. I understand that you might not want to read about the details, because I can get creative. But I am more than happy to put everything under a cut. So you don't have to read. The day I stop mentioning it at all is the day my husband himself requests it. But I highly doubt he even cares. He doesn't read or post to LJ that often. And he enjoys knowing that his wife is happy.
I don't talk about graphic details like body parts. I only talk about how I feel, the emotion, the mental aspect. I don't write porn. Sometimes I might gush happily about how he makes me feel amazing. And you know what, if people don't want to know about that, I'm handing out free buckets of brain bleach. Have at it.
It's one thing if my close friends say, "Hey, Jo, I don't wanna hear about you and Adam fucking, please, that's not a mental image I need." I respect that highly. Which is why I use LJ cuts and warnings such as "This post contains an emotional description of how last night's sex made me feel wonderful. Read at your own risk." However, when people I don't even know start bitching at me, that's different. I don't have to change anything for strangers. It's MY journal.
Sex for me is a very beautiful thing. It's healing and magical and lovely. I like talking about it. But I know that there are people who don't like hearing about it. That's fair. That's fine. You know what, you don't have to read those entries. But don't you dare tell me what I can and cannot write about. You don't even know me.
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I tend to talk about Adult Content. Guess this means I should put a Warning Sign in each entry that contains such content. But I realize that my entries might not just offend certain types of parents, but might offend strangers who just don't want to read about my sex life. And you know what? Fuck them. I'm married. I have sex with my husband. Before we were married, we had sex. It's what people do. I understand that you might not want to read about the details, because I can get creative. But I am more than happy to put everything under a cut. So you don't have to read. The day I stop mentioning it at all is the day my husband himself requests it. But I highly doubt he even cares. He doesn't read or post to LJ that often. And he enjoys knowing that his wife is happy.
I don't talk about graphic details like body parts. I only talk about how I feel, the emotion, the mental aspect. I don't write porn. Sometimes I might gush happily about how he makes me feel amazing. And you know what, if people don't want to know about that, I'm handing out free buckets of brain bleach. Have at it.
It's one thing if my close friends say, "Hey, Jo, I don't wanna hear about you and Adam fucking, please, that's not a mental image I need." I respect that highly. Which is why I use LJ cuts and warnings such as "This post contains an emotional description of how last night's sex made me feel wonderful. Read at your own risk." However, when people I don't even know start bitching at me, that's different. I don't have to change anything for strangers. It's MY journal.
Sex for me is a very beautiful thing. It's healing and magical and lovely. I like talking about it. But I know that there are people who don't like hearing about it. That's fair. That's fine. You know what, you don't have to read those entries. But don't you dare tell me what I can and cannot write about. You don't even know me.
/end rant
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Date: 2007-12-10 04:20 pm (UTC)By the way, would you feel comfortable if I could read your friends only entries? Because I do enjoy reading your public entries, so I'd really like to be able to read the other ones, too. But if you don't want to add me, of course that's perfectly all right too. Just wondering. :-)
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Date: 2007-12-10 04:24 pm (UTC)If you've found any of my posts that are locked, let me know and I'll friend you so you can read them.
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Date: 2007-12-16 12:21 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2007-12-10 04:40 pm (UTC)And yet we keep reading anyway.
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Date: 2007-12-10 04:52 pm (UTC)There's nothing wrong with talking about sex. Sex is good. I like it. :)
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Date: 2007-12-10 05:41 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-12-10 05:20 pm (UTC)People need to stop trying to babysit children. Its why there are parents.
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Date: 2007-12-10 06:36 pm (UTC)It's not like you describe each and every aspect of it. Like you said, it's the emotional end of thing. No likie? Don't read it!
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Date: 2007-12-10 06:45 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-12-10 08:39 pm (UTC)It's your journal, you not only should, but DO write what you want. If people don't like it, they can self-edit: shut up and not read any further.
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Date: 2007-12-10 09:17 pm (UTC)(Mostly because I keep banging my head on my desk whenever I hear or read about those complaints.
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Date: 2007-12-10 06:44 pm (UTC)I write for children and teens. The things found in a lot of young adult books make your journal look like Sesame Street!
I can't believe anyone complained about your journal. Insanity.
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Date: 2007-12-10 06:46 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-12-10 10:23 pm (UTC)*applauds*
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Date: 2007-12-11 08:42 am (UTC)I really don't understand people's attitude toward sex. Maybe they get exposed to too much nasty stuff that calls itself sex, and they don't know what real sex is like. *shrugs* Whatever the case, telling someone else "ur doin it rong" is not going to do anyone any good!
On the flagging thing, I think it is a good idea in theory but there is too much room for misuse. I don't really care, since my LJ still stays public. If they started forcing me to lock things, THEN I would be pissed.
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Date: 2007-12-12 12:29 pm (UTC)Is it just me, or is LJ getting more and more conservative?
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