Evil grin

[brightrosefox]

Adam's quote of the day:

"Vengeance is quick, but not cost effective."

My response? As long as we get something out of it, I don't care how they're tortured.

Those who know what has happened will understand.

To put it bluntly, someone stole and lied and swindled and fucked over our family. Big time.
But it might all work out. Just pray. Just pray.

I'm so glad for my friends.

Comments

[vanoakenfold.livejournal.com]

I'll be praying you can forgive them ;-D

[brightrosefox.livejournal.com]

No. Don't do that. This is an unforgivable act of sheer selfish greed and desire to hurt. My in-laws are out thousands upon thousands upon thousands of dollars and may have lost their new home. Because they trusted him. Because he is a prick. No, he will not be forgiven. I cannot even joke. I wish I could. :(

[vanoakenfold.livejournal.com]

We will not be satisfied until we forgive, because our reactions are not caused by others, but by us. If someone wrongs me, it is my option to react hurt or ignore it. Regardless of what happens to that someone in the way of justice, I will not feel better unless they are forgiven by me, because the hurt was my decision to allow and thus my decision to forgive. Even if a truly adequate amount of justice is met, I could not move on unless I forgave them myself.

The circumstances are not what satisfies the need for justice, it is the decision of self that justice has been met. Just the same as it would be my decision as to whether the an adequate amout of justice has been done in return to him, I can equally decide to let the matter pass and be satisfied without vengeful thought weighing my life down. Until we forgive, our revenge remains an obstacle to regular living, an obstacle we placed before ourselves. Whether we are satisfied that justice has been done is up to us, not to the offender by way of compensation. *We* even decide if the offender's compensation is adequate to suit us, therefore it is our decision of when forgivenness is granted and then becomes the same time when *we* move on and are no longer bothered by it. In short, if we forgive sooner, we are no longer bothered by it sooner. And forgivenness, "I forgive you and I won't press charges." :-)

I pray you can forgive him because you either won't be able to move on until then, or he will remain an undealth-with obstacle set aside (yet still an obstacle) :-)

[madwriter.livejournal.com]

Someone I know has finally discovered some proof that her brother had been swindling their mother, complete with numbers. She's planning on taking her mother to the bank for a little fun soon, which would in turn leave the brother high-and-dry.

This is a brother who also wriggled himself and his wife into being the primary beneficiary of their aunt's will. The rest of the family would be quite happy for them to have some comeuppance.

[brightrosefox.livejournal.com]

*shakes head* I will never understand some people. Never.

[vanoakenfold.livejournal.com]

Like pain, others tolerances for "what I can get away with" may be higher or lower than our own. It is justified in our own eyes as being "ok" by convincing ourself that we our reasons are adequate or fair in our own eyes that than punishment need not come to us, by doing things others could not consider even dare-able. We can see our own rationales in our own lives for things others would not do themselves just the same, to lesser or greater extremes, so we cannot exactly lay blame :-)