Because humans are the best, right?

[brightrosefox]

"So, do you have kids?"
"Nope. We have three cats."
"Why don't you have any kids?"
"We just don't want kids. Plus, I have medical issues and I don't want to get pregnant."
"Well, you could try adoption."
"Well, it's expensive. And we don't want kids."
"Huh. That's surprising. You sure you don't want to adopt?"
"No. We don't have the money or time or resources, and we just don't want children."
"Well, you could always find the time."
"My husband I will consider it, thank you. But right now, it's not in our plans."
"Ah. Okay, then. Well, at least your cats are like kids, right?"
"Sometimes, yes."

Dear everyone I meet who wonders why I don't have children: Stop fucking telling me I need to have children. Stop Just fucking stop. What part of "I don't want any" do you not understand? I don't want any. Ever. Let it go.

Comments

[kateqt.livejournal.com]

Cool! It's different to him, he explains it in the same way as his straight male friends not wanting to look at each other's junk but still being obsessed with their own. He wants to have one, just doesn't find them attractive at all in a sexual way, if that makes sense.

Every single person who knows him randomly goes, "Yeah, what the hell was that about?" so you're not the only one who wonders, lol. He says he was trying to "give dating a guy a shot so family would get off my case." He'd just come out to them, and his mom didn't react well, so having someone he knew online casually he could claim he was dating but obviously wasn't his type was a good transition to get them to leave him alone. Then... the online deflection moved to be near him, so... that was awkward. Then he didn't know what to do because this person was obviously genuinely attached when he only felt friendship, but it was blown up into something that it really wasn't supposed to be. And he was going through a lot, so Chris was struggling with the timing of backing out in a way that wouldn't push him too far emotionally.

[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

That's what I assumed about the penis thing. I get it. :)

You know, it all makes sense now - too bad Jake got so attached that he couldn't even see what was happening. I mean, he's over it now, but for a few weeks, I wound up fielding a ton of emails from him that were "She's the villain, I'm the poor victim, my life is awful, I should kill myself if she doesn't love me..." And after a while I just blocked him because he was getting creepier. The first and only time I met him face to face, he was very creepily attached to our conversations.
I'm just glad you and Chris have each other as you are!

[kateqt.livejournal.com]

Yep, and he did that to Chris as well, so it was a very, "Oh shit, have to be careful what I say or he's going to kill himself," thing. I had a friend like that when I was younger, definitely a stressful no-win situation. I'm very glad as well. :) We both appreciate how awesomely supportive you are.

[brightlotusmoon.livejournal.com]

I just commented on your post with a Roommate Story. I really do try to be as immensely supportive as I can - beyond the breaking point. :)